The Top 3 Things I Learned in 2018

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Every year, I love sitting down and planning for the next year. I love setting goals, reviewing my goals from last year, and planning for myself, my family, and my business. It’s an opportunity to start new, get super focused, and push “reset” on the craziness that is the month of December for my family.

This past year was an amazing year. I had a great financial year at my full-time job and my team doubled in revenue in 2018. From a team that didn’t really exist in January 2017 to $2.1 million dollars in January 2019 is something to celebrate.

I launched my business!!! While Uncensored Consulting looks ENTIRELY differently than it did when I started planning in 2017, it’s become more than I ever imagined. My goals have changed, my vision has changed, and I’ve done some pretty exciting things in growing my brand.

We traveled a little bit. Went to Key West for a wedding in February and took a long weekend off in Colorado Springs. While quieter than what we’re used to, we’ve found that kids, a business, and a couple of full-time jobs make it hard to get away as much as we’d like. It’s on the road map to change that in the future!

We joined a Small Group in our church (which has been AMAZING). We were baptized in May 2018 and became members of our church. We also started serving on our Rock Brook for Kids ministry team and teaching “sunday school.” I also co-lead a Kids Small Group and help teach first graders about Jesus (it’s so fun, and I get to learn along with them!).

We decided to grow our family and learned in October that we will be adding another sweet babe to the crew in June 2019. What can I say, I really, really like life change.

It was also a really challenging year.  

A year of change. A year of learning to be okay with wanting something different. A year of growth and of learning how to literally BE someone else. By no means have I mastered any of these things, but just recognizing where my challenges ARE is pretty exciting for me.

With all of that said, I thought I’d share with you the Top 3 Things I Learned in 2018. Or, maybe I didn’t JUST learn these things in 2018, but I am nothing if not stubborn.

1 – It’s okay to change course

I’m a planner. A Type A control freak To. The. Core. Seriously, ask my husband.

I’ve had a plan for years. I’ve worked that plan every year. I’ve checked the boxes. I’ve reached goals. I’ve set different goals. But I was always moving in the same direction. Towards one BIG life goal.

And this year – someone moved the damn goal post. Yep, just totally picked it up and put it somewhere else. It’s terrifying. Exciting. But mostly terrifying. I’ve been fighting it tooth and nail. Making excuses. Planning instead of acting. Hiding behind excuses.

Though all of this crazy, ridiculous life change – I learned that it’s OKAY to change course. It’s your course, dammit! No one else’s. And it’s okay to change. Then change again. Then change one more time.

It’s your life. Your career. Your business. Your marriage. Your family. Your workout plan. Your WHATEVER.

And it’s okay to change course whenever you feel like it.

Let’s not get crazy or anything (I’m not encouraging giving up on anything you haven’t really sunk your teeth into) – but it’s okay to want something else. And to do something to go get it.

2 – Nothing (I mean NOTHING) will change if you don’t

In light of Lesson #1 – I’ve learned Lesson #2. If you’re not willing to change. I mean, like become a totally different person, change – then don’t be surprised when what you’re chasing doesn’t happen (or at least in the way or time frame in which you want it to).

If your goal is to lose weight – you have to change who you are. You are no longer the person on the couch eating gummy worms (don’t judge me, I’m pregnant). You are the woman who eats carrots and peppers and eggs and chicken breast. Become that person.

If your goal is to grow your business – you have to become the person who grows your business. Not the person that talks about growing a business, makes plan to grow a business, or makes excuses about why they aren’t growing their business (guilty AS CHARGED, my friend).

You get my point. If you want something different – be someone different.

I obviously don’t mean change who you are as a person, but change your thoughts and habits around whatever it is you want to change.

You want to be debt free – you can’t be the person who doesn’t have a budget (believe me, I’ve tried!). It just will not work.

Got it?!

3 – There is no way to cheat hard work, determination, and consistency

There is no silver bullet. There is no course to take, no magic wand to wave, no software to buy, or ad campaign to invest in that will sustain your business goals if you’re not willing to do the work and show up Every. Damn. Day. (I’ve tried this one, too).

I’m not saying you have to work 80+ hours a work and hustle non stop to reach your goals. I am saying that if you don’t show up every day, determined to achieve what you’re working towards – you just won’t get there.

You can talk about it. Complain about it. Journal about it. But if you’re not showing up every day, you will not hit your goals (not if they’re worth hitting, anyway).

It doesn’t matter what you did last year, last month, or even last week. You have to get out of bed every, single day and get to work. That’s how you find success. It’s not buried in a book (or this blog post, for that matter) – it’s inside of you. I promise.

Like I said, NONE of these concepts are new. Or things you haven’t heard before, I’m sure. But, man did that hit me like a ton of bricks this year. Learning to want and be someone else is HARD. It requires some serious, serious mindset work (which I’ve been fighting).

Whatever it is you want. Whatever it is you’re working towards. Whatever is NOT serving you anymore. You can change course. You can change your identity. But only if you do the work.

Cheers to an amazing 2019!

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